Wait for the LORD; Be strong and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for the LORD. Psalm 27:14
Last fall, I took my husband to the emergency room for an infection in his foot and lower leg.
For hours we sat in the hallway in the emergency triage area. He saw numerous doctors, got poked and prodded mercilessly, and was pumped with antibiotics.
Two hours went by, then three, four, six…eight…until finally, nine hours later, we were taken out of the hallway and to a room upstairs.
Those nine hours of waiting to get out of the hallway seemed to go on and on forever. Waiting is just not fun. It seems like such a waste of time, doesn’t it? There’s so much we could be doing!
I’m sure you dislike waiting as much as I do, whether it’s waiting for test results, for your child to get get through a difficult season, for your marriage to improve, or for things in your job to get better.
But there’s actually something that happens when we wait. As I sat in that emergency hallway in a very uncomfortable hospital chair, the waiting started to make a little sense. Here’s what I realized:
Waiting forces you to trust the process
For us the process was tests, doctors looking at blood results, and doctors conferring about the best antibiotic to give my husband. This was a process and we had to relax and trust that it was necessary and working for our good.
Do you trust the process as you wait? Our tendency is to be in a hurry, to get to the result. But here’s the deal, the process is what shapes us, prepares us and ultimately brings the results we are striving for.
Waiting forces you to give up control
There was absolutely nothing I could do that day in the hospital to hurry things up. There were hundreds of other sick people who needed care as well. Things were simply out of my control.
It was a test for my I-can’t-be-in-control muscles. I was at the mercy of the medical system and had to relax in the fact that things were not in my hands. Complaining would have only make the medical staff and me miserable. I could see that they were doing their best.
Sometimes as you wait for your kids to develop, get motivated, improve their skills, you feel helpless. There’s simply nothing as scary as realizing you don’t have control over the situation. But when you accept that fact, you can take a deep breath and focus on what you can do while you wait. And it’s then that a lot of stuff can actually get accomplished.
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