Verbal abuse is just as damaging as physical. Measure you words; their impact is real and lasting.
Fathers, do not aggravate your children, or they will become discouraged. Colossians 3:21
First of all, let me say that even though this verse addresses Fathers, I believe it also applies to moms too. And quite honestly, there are a lot of ways that we tend to aggravate our kids. One of the most used and most potent ways is with our words.
You may be a parent who would NEVER physically abuse your child, but perhaps the words that have escaped from your lips have bordered on verbal abuse. Verbal and/or emotional abuse is just as damaging as physical and it may be that you are doing it without even really understanding that it’s abuse.
If you are doing any of these behaviors or if you are the recipient of them, call it what it is and get help.
- calling someone names and putting them down
- yelling and screaming at someone
- intentionally embarassing someone in public (not just teasing, but humiliating)
- preventing someone from seeing or talking with family and friends
- telling someone what to do and what to wear, controlling every decision
- blaming someone else’s actions for their abusive or unhealthy behavior
- threatening to harm you or people you care about
Unfortunately, we tend to let verbal and emotional abusers get away with their garbage. I see it all the time in one particular relationship I know about and no one has the nerve to call it what it is. It makes me sick.
The old addage, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” just is not true.
Parents, weigh the impact of your words. Death and life are truly in the power of the tongue. (Proverbs 18:21).
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