Work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people. Colossians 3:23
This verse is part of what learning responsibility is all about. Doing a job, when no one else is around because you’re ultimately doing it for the Lord. The challenge comes in teaching this to your kids.
Teaching responsibility to your children is a non-stop job. It’s an area that is very easy to get lazy in because it’s not always convenient to follow up and make sure your kids are actually learning. It’s much easier to yell and threaten and hope they are learning it.
Here’s some thoughts that might give you some clarification as to what you are really trying to do.
Responsibility makes more sense with a hyphen: response-ability. It’s the ability to choose your response in any set of circumstances. Taking responsibility doesn’t mean taking the blame or taking the credit. In my dictionary, it means being accountable for your response no matter what.
Mark Batterson, IF
Responsibility focuses more on owning up to your response to a situation, and that’s where we all get ourselves into trouble.
Your child gets mad at his bad grade, then blames the teacher for his anger.
You get upset at your child’s coach because your child isn’t playing enough, and blame him for your “justified” anger.
We react, then blame someone else for our reactions.
There’s two things wrong with that.
First of all, blaming never solved a problem.
Second, no one forces you to act a certain way. That is a choice you make, no matter what they do.
So, now when you teach your child responsibility, teach him response-ability–the ability to properly respond to the things that are thrown at him and the courage to recognize the importance of his response.