So whether we are at home or away, we make it our aim to please him. 2 Corinthians 5:9
Do you struggle to set priorities in your home? I know of one very simple way to help you do that.
When you have a filter to help you know what to say YES and NO to, it will be much easier to fill your calendar with what is most important to you.
That filter is a set of core values. If your family does not have a set of core values, then it’s time to get some! They will help guide your family through every decision you will have to make.
Here’s how you go about coming up with your family’s core values:
- Make a list of 3-5 things that are the most important to you. It might include things like kids, work, friends, faith, etc.
- Then say something specific about that important value. For instance, instead of just listing “kids” as a core value, say something specific like “Focus on spending quality time with my kids each week”. You can even get more specific by setting a goal of how many hours you would like to do that.
- Use those core values as a filter to plan your year, month, week, and day. When someone comes to you and asks you to do something, you do not have to automatically say YES. Tell them you will think about it and get back to them. If what they are asking you to do does not line up with any of your core values, then you can say no without guilt. You can tell them that you just can’t do it this time, but appreciate them thinking of you. You don’t even have to tell them why!
- Display those core values on your fridge for the family to see and use as they fill their calendars. Display them on your dashboard, your mirror, and in your Bible. They are reminders of what you should and should not say YES to.
This filter is a simple strategy, however, I know establishing core values may not be so easy for you. If you are struggling with how to do this, I’d love to help. I’m a parenting coach and I’d love to give you a free introductory coaching session. Learn more here.