We are hunted down, but never abandoned by God. We get knocked down, but we are not destroyed. 2 Corinthians 4:9
Have you given your child permission to fail? Does your child know how to get back up after they are knocked down?
One of the hardest pieces of parenting is watching your kids fail. It’s so very painful to see your kids struggle through hard situations. But it’s important for parents to realize that failure is a needed part of your child’s journey.
I like the way Jessica Lahey says it in her book The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed.
Be emotionally prepared for the challenges your child will face….She will take her cues from you, so project your confidence in her and in your ability to refrain from rescuing her from the challenge of these transitions and milestones. Failure is a vital part of her education, as vital as math or English or science.
To that end, protect her right to fail. Give her the time and space she needs to be disappointed in herself. Finally, encourage her perseverance as she picks herself up, dusts herself off, and learns from experience that she is capable of rebounding from those failures.
There’s a difference between setting your child up to fail and giving them permission to fail. No parent wants to send their child into a situation that they are pretty sure will end in failure. But no parent can guard their child from all failure either. Failure happens to us all and the sooner your child knows how to acknowledge it, learn from it and move on from it, the more prepared they will be for life as an adult.
Giving your child the right to fail simply means that you let them fail without shaming them. You let them know that failure is not final, and that they can learn from it to be better.
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