Those who work their land will have abundant food, but those who chase fantasies have no sense. Proverbs 12:11
Is your child looking for quick success, kinda like the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow? Sometimes the pot of gold is not all it’s cracked up to be. The big rewards, the promotion, or the golden opportunity is not always the answer to his problems.
Kids tend to think this way (they probably get it from us adults!) If only this happens, then I’ll be happy.
If only I make the team, I’ll be happy.
If only I make friends with so-and-so, I’ll be happy.
If only I get the good grades I want, then I’ll happy.
The if-onlys are endless, because once you get your first if-only, you want more and more and more in order to be happy.
The pot-of-gold myth is simply this: a golden opportunity, big promotion, or dazzling relationship will improve my character.
How about teaching your kids the importance of working on their promotability, instead of pining after the promotion?
That means paying attention to their character: things like teachability, serving others, teamwork, good communication. Talent, strength and skill are not the rarest traits; perseverance, teamsmanship, and truthworthiness are harder to find.
This is actually a good rule for us all to live by: An amazing talent is not the primary ingredient that qualifies your child for a promotion–on the little league team or in the workplace–more than character, experience, perseverance or leadership.
As your child works hard to develop skills, don’t let them neglect the even harder work of developing a character that is worthy of and will be able to handle promotion.
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