Parents sometimes write themselves a too-broad job description. Take a minute and evaluate what your parenting looks like.
Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. Colossians 3:21
Most parents don’t intentionally set out to discourage their kids. It just happens, usually when we forget what our real role as parents is. Every now and then, all of us who are parents need to be reminded of what our real job is.
The reason we need to be reminded is that it’s very easy to get so wrapped up in our love for our kids, that we lose sight of what we should be doing to help our kids grow up to be strong, caring adults.
This is a life-long battle for parents, whether our kids are 10 or 30. I think it’s a good idea to frequently remind ourselves what our real job description as parents is.
This is NOT in the parenting job description:
- Clone yourself, your passions, and your skills
- Live out your ambitions through your child
- Plan out your child’s life
- Rescue your child at every turn
- Keep your child in close proximity for life
This IS in the parenting job description:
- Help your child discover his own passions/dreams
- Provide your child with opportunities for growth by pushing her out of her comfort zone
- Coach her through difficulties and hardships, instead of shielding her from them
- Listen and Love strongly
- Model the type of person you want your child to become
Take a few minutes today to ask yourself if you’ve been doing some of those things that are NOT in your job description. Doing them will not get you to your goal of raising responsible adults.
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