Parents, if your child does not feel “sure” of you, it’s time to change that!
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Psalm 127:3
There are some days when it’s easy to forget that our kids are a “reward.” And it is in those moments that our kids may feel unsure of our love. I love this story of Piglet and Pooh:
Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind.
“Pooh,” he whispered.
“Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s paw. “I just wanted to be sure of you.” –A.A. Milne
“Piglet’s desire is the desire of every child,” says Yuval Harpaz, author of Practical Parenting to Go. “A child wants to be sure of you; he or she wants to know that your love, acceptance, and joy at the fact that he or she is yours will never end…To give that to your child should be at the top of your priority list every single day of your life.”
I believe that one of the hardest arenas for parents to communicate this is when their kids are competing in sports or music or even in school. Parents want so deeply for their kids to do well, that their desperation taints their behavior. It’s not that they mean to, or want to, but it just oozes out in their mannerisms and words.
That desperation causes parents to get angry and yell at their kids about messy homework, critique them on the car ride home from a little league game, nag and push their kids to work hard and practice, and a host of other unhealthy parenting behaviors.
Listen, Mom and Dad, your child needs to “be sure of you” in every area of life.
Be intentional–say it every single day–about letting your child know that no matter how many mistakes he makes, no matter how she behaves or performs in whatever she does, he or she can be sure of you and your unconditional love.