A person who promises a gift but doesn’t give it is like clouds and wind that bring no rain. Proverbs 25:14
Do your kids know that your word is golden? Do they believe you when you tell them that something is going to happen or that you love them? Do they know that they can rely on you to always be there for them?
I recently read an interesting quote by Michael Hyatt:
If someone says they’ll try to do something, it’s a safe bet they won’t accomplish it.
As parents, it’s so easy for us to fall into the “I’ll try” trap of dealing with our kids’ requests.
I’ll try to be at your game.
I’ll try to spend time with you this weekend.
I’ll try to help you with your homework later.
I’ll try is another way of saying, I’m not sure, I mean, I want to, but I just don’t know if I have the time.
I’ll try gives us a guiltless way out if we can’t do it, because, after all, we didn’t really promise to do it.
Parents, I’d like to throw this challenge out: Instead of saying “I’ll try”, just do it!
If you can’t, then tell your child, you can’t. But I’ll try always gets their hopes up and at the same time gives you wiggle room to back down if something more important comes up.
If your child asks you to do something, think before you give an answer. Say, I have to think about it for a minute and I will give you an answer. Then take a few minutes or however long you need to give them a definitive answer.
This kind of intentional answering will help your words be “gold” and will let your child know that you are someone that means what they say.