Parenting priorities should focus on putting first things first, in other words, parenting with God’s kingdom at the forefront.
But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Matthew 6:33
I recently read the book by Stephen Covey, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, and the third habit is one that I wanted to focus on today: Putting First Things First.
Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least.
If you believe that statement by Goethe, then it should transform your priorities.
Putting first things first is a game-changer for parenting habits. In order to put first things, start by asking yourself this question: What things matter the most to you?
Your kids? Your job? Your spouse?
I hope it’s a no-brainer that raising your kids and nourishing your marriage should be at the top of your priority list. And if that’s the case, then it’s time to stop letting them be at the mercy of lesser things in your life.
Lesser things doesn’t mean worthless things, it just means things that should not take priority over your job as a parent. What are those lesser things in your life? Materialistic infatuations? Like that boat, new car or bigger house?
Or maybe it’s making sure your child is on that elite team, gets good playing time or makes the all-star team.
It’s okay to want these “lesser things,” but it’s not okay to make them more important than loving your family and giving your kids the time and attention that will help them grow up to be healthy, strong, compassionate adults.
If you haven’t sat down and written out your core values and priorities as a parent and spouse, take a few minutes to do so in the next day or two. As a parent raising your child in God’s ways, those “first things” should reflect what’s important in God’s kingdom.
As you let those “first things” take priority in your life, sooner or later, you will reap the benefit of a successful and happy home.