If you have a parenting fear of scarring your child with something you say or do, read on…
I am leaving you with a gift—peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid. John 14:27
Do you have a parenting fear? One of mine used to be that something I was doing would scar my child for life.
For instance, when I was pregnant with my second child, I was very sick and spent most of the first three months laying in bed, while my two-year-old watched cartoons and Disney. I felt terribly guilty. What a bad mom I was because I let the TV babysit her during the first few months of pregnancy!
If your behavior in question is not hurting your child physically or emotionally–there is NO excuse for that–then it’s time to give yourself some grace. Because, quite honestly, your child is probably giving you more grace than you are giving yourself.
My two-year-old is now 30 and she has absolutely no recollection of those three months when I couldn’t play with her. What she does know is that she never felt that I stopped loving her. Had she felt that, then perhaps my bedridden days would have scarred her.
Maybe you’re dealing with an illness, job problems, or a money crisis. These things often distract us from being the parents that we want to be, but your child can come out okay as long as he consistently feels your love and as long as the distraction is temporary.
That’s the sacrifice of parenting: not being so distracted in our personal hard seasons that our kids are left out in the cold, questioning our love for them.
What do you struggle with as a parent? Time management? Discipline? Motivating your child?
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