Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church. Ephesians 4:15
Parents who work harder at being their kids’ friends than they do at being the parent are not going to get the results they hope for.
They are hoping for good communication, a close bond, and trust, and they feel the best way to do that is to befriend their kids instead of parent them.
But here’s the deal, if you want your kids to grow into an adult who is your friend, then you may have to sacrifice a little of your friendliness when they are younger.
Yes, there are times to be silly and act like “friends,” but more times than that, you must not be timid about being the Parent.
One of the best ways to Be the Parent is to always speak Truth into your kids.
There are times when your kids need to hear TRUTH from a parent, not consolation from a friend. When they are doing something you know they shouldn’t be doing or when they are making choices that are not wise, it’s not the time to be their best friend.
Be the Parent, and speak up in love:
“Hey, this is not who you are. This is not the way you were raised. You won’t be happy if you go down this road. Stop doing what you’re doing! Be who you really are.”
It’s important that your child is reminded of who they are on the inside because what they think about themselves is one of the most powerful forces in their lives.
Be the Parent and speak God’s Truth into them:
Your son may make a few mistakes, but that does not make him a failure. Does he know that?
Your daughter may make a bad choice, but that doesn’t make her a bad kid. Does she know that?
Speak the truth and then love them. The combination of those two will shape your child for life.
If you’d like help in knowing how to speak the truth in love to your children, I can help. I’m a life coach for parents. Please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org.