Parents give their kids lots of gifts, but there are two gifts that you may not have acknowledged as being very important.
When raising your children, one of the worst things you can do for them is continually bail them out, shielding them from the consequences of their actions. And it’s because of this that Sowing and reaping are gifts.
Why? Because learning from mistakes is one of the strongest ways to learn.
If your child forgets her shoes for basketball practice, and you rush over to school to give them to her, chances are she will forget again and you’ll be rushing to her rescue once more.
But if you tell her, sorry, I can’t get by. She will sit out practice and most likely will not forget her shoes again. And if she does, it probably won’t happen very often!
If your son forgets his homework and texts you, asking you to bring it by because he might get in trouble. You could jump in the car and rush to the rescue, or you could text him back and tell him that you’re sorry he forgot, but hopefully he will remember next time.
Perhaps these seem cruel to you? Think again. Constantly bailing your child out will not help him learn lessons to become independent.
Sowing and reaping are huge life lessons. And it’s not always in the negative aspect. Sowing positive things like working hard, studying hard, being kind–always reap their own rewards.
Some people call it “consequences.” Does your child fully understand that every action has them? Does she see that what she reaps, she will sow? Or do you constantly jump in to be sure that what they sow they are NOT reaping?
Look for opportunities to give your kids the gifts of sowing and reaping. They, of course, will not see them as gifts now, but someday, they will reap the rewards of having learned both of them.