So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today. Matthew 6:34
As my kids grew up, I remember thinking that the next stage would be more fun, easier. When they learned to go potty, when they learned to tie their own shoes, when they learned to do their own laundry or clean their own rooms, when they learned to drive–then my life would be easier.
There is nothing wrong with looking forward to something in the future, unless we are looking to that whatever-it-is to bring us happiness.
If you need what’s next to make you happy–no matter what NEXT is–you suffer from destination disease. We get so focused on then and there that we don’t really enjoy here and now. (Mark Batterson, IF)
When my son makes the starting five, when my daughter makes the dance team, when my son is voted class president, when my child gets a college scholarship–then I’ll be happy.
Well, actually, no you won’t. It’s a mirage! If you aren’t happy where you are now, a starting spot for your child or a college scholarship won’t solve all your problems.
Don’t get me wrong, goal setting is a good thing. We should do it as parents, and we should encourage our kids to do it. But sometimes looking ahead is looking seeing a mirage. Once we get to the “when” spot, we are automatically looking to the next “when.”
Stop focusing on the “when” and focus on today, on now. On the journey. Soak it up, learn from it, embrace it. Because when the next “when” actually comes, there’s always another “when” waiting around the corner and pretty soon we realize we are jumping from “when” to “when” instead of enjoying the now.