Train up a child in the way he should go; Even when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6
Do you feel your child will be ready to face the world and take care of him or herself when high school ends? That is a parenting checkup that every parent must make.
I came across this article listing 12 Basic Life Skills Every Kid Should Know by High School which included things like: make a meal, wake themselves up on time, and do laundry.
As I read the list, I mentally checked off the things that my kids did know by high school, and if I had to give myself a grade it would probably be a B+.
I could have done a better job at teaching them to cook.
I could have been more insistent on them keeping their rooms clean.
I should have done a better job at teaching them about good nutrition.
As parents, it’s easy to “should” on ourselves. It’s easy in hindsight to pinpoint things we could have done better.
You are never going to do everything right as a parent. But if you focus on teaching your child what is truly important, then you can know that you’ve done a decent job of parenting.
What is important? The truly important things your child needs to be learning are the things that grow inside her heart and his mind.
Things like compassion, courage, faith in God, self-esteem.
Your child can always google how to cook or how to fix a leaky faucet. But he or she will not be able to google Godly character into themselves.
The honest truth is that my husband and I could have done a better job at teaching our kids to cook, clean house, and fix things around the house. We chose to focus on inner qualities and that we will never regret.
So if your child doesn’t have the list of 12 life skills down pat, don’t fret. As long as the inner character foundation is laid, you’ve done your job as a parent.