The Talk about Letting Go
Teach your children to choose the right path, and when they are older, they will remain upon it. Proverbs 22:6 NLT
Parents, there’s no easy way to get around the fact that someday you are going to have to let go.
I’m sure I don’t even need to ask you if you have a hard time with this. I believe every parent does, in some way.
For you, maybe it’s in sports, or in their school work. Or maybe you struggle to not jump in and get involved with friend drama.
Believe it or not, I’m still struggling with letting go and my kids are in their 20s! At this point, it’s more a matter of me letting go emotionally, rather than actually having any type of control over them, which I don’t. They are all young adults, they are all responsible, and I really have no recourse when I disagree with them or see them struggle than to let go in my head and keep my mouth shut.
The best way for you to prepare yourself for that time in your future when you are in my shoes is to start letting go little by little right now.
Age-appropriately of course. But consistently, intentionally, and lovingly.
It will cause you pain and frustration and probably some tears. But here’s the deal with the whole letting-go process: it’s just as much for you as it is for your kids.
If you don’t learn to let go even as they are learning to be let go of, then when they are grown and fully independent, you will find yourself hanging on in your mind and in your heart.
Not that you ever stop loving or supporting them, but you must cut the cord and let them create their own life and if you don’t, your letting-go pain will not go away.
Proverbs 22:6 gives the simple formula for letting go: Teach your children…and when they are older they will remain upon it. This is not necessarily a problem, it’s a formula for letting go: Teach and Trust.