Letting go of your children is undoubtably one of the most difficult things a parent must do. Start learning how to do it early.
The righteous shall move onward and forward; those with pure hearts shall become stronger and stronger. Job 17:9
For parents, moving forward often comes in the form of not hanging on to the past of when our kids were young and under our “control”. But letting go, as I talked about a few weeks ago, is undoubtably one of the most difficult things a parent must do.
Is letting go of your child hard for you? I think it’s probably hard for every parent!
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about letting go of my kids. Yes, they are grown–24,27, and 30–and in a very real sense, I have let go. They make their own decisions without my interference or opinion (unless asked), and I constantly work at giving them their space.
But they’ve all lived in the same city with us for the past 3 years, after they finished college, and that closeness spoiled me. Seven months ago, my son moved across the country and saying goodbye was one of the hardest things I’ve had to do.
Letting go was something I worked very hard at as my kids were growing up. Unfortunately, practicing it doesn’t mean it ever gets easy.
I do not say this to discourage you as you look to the future and your kids leaving home. I say this to encourage you to keep practicing the art of letting go of your kids while they are still at home.
Because, although practice doesn’t mean that it will be easier for you down the road when your kids leave home, it does mean that you will be able to let go because you know it’s the right thing to do.
That’s a discipline that parents must develop daily: the ability to do what is best for your kids even when it hurts. It’s all part of letting go.