When your kids face problems, will they know how to forge through and overcome because they’ve seen you set the example?
I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world. John 16:33
My young niece loves to sing along to Mandesa’s song Overcomer. Perhaps you can join in on the chorus:
You’re an overcomer
Stay in the fight ‘til the final round
You’re not going under
‘Cause God is holding you right now
You might be down for a moment
Feeling like it’s hopeless
That’s when He reminds You
That you’re an overcomer
You’re an overcomer
It’s a song with great truth, but I’m wondering, even as we sing along with the radio, are we really striving to live a life that overcomes in front of our kids?
Overcoming does not mean that you don’t admit weaknesses or struggles. It does not mean that you never let your kids see you cry or in pain.
It does mean that you’re learning to forge through tough times with God’s strength and joy, not giving in to worry or depression or fear.
One of my favorite devotional writers is Oswald Chambers. Here are a few of my thoughts as I read his words about Overcoming:
Christians are NOT Exempt from Trouble, no matter how much they pray.
An average view of the Christian life is that it means deliverance from trouble. It is deliverance in trouble, which is very different.
If you are a child of God, there certainly will be troubles to meet, but Jesus says do not be surprised when they come. “In the world you shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world, there is nothing for you to fear.”
We should not be shocked or upset when we face problems. We may hate going through them, but we simply cannot avoid them. The question is not if, but when. And will your relationship with God be what gives you strength as you go through them?
God does not give us overcoming life: He gives us life as we overcome.
The strain is the strength. If there is no strain, there is no strength. Are you asking God to give you life and liberty and joy? He cannot, unless you will accept the strain. Immediately you face the strain, you will get the strength.
I love this. We cannot grow stronger without straining. A person cannot build muscles without straining to lift weights. A doctor cannot get his medical degree without straining to get through med school. The journey is what makes us strong and prepares us for the problems ahead.
God only gives strength at the moment we need it.
God never gives strength for to-morrow, or for the next hour, but only for the strain of the minute. The temptation is to face difficulties from a common-sense standpoint. The saint is hilarious when he is crushed with difficulties because the thing is so ludicrously impossible to anyone but God.
Take note, worry-warts! Stressing about something before it even happens is pointless. God will not give you the grace to endure it until the moment you need it; so of course if it hasn’t happened yet, you will not have the strength to bear it.
Your Example of Overcoming Will Be the Biggest Lesson in Your Child’s Life
Our family has gone through a lot of struggles in the past 5 years, and even now my husband is facing trials at work. Our 20-something kids know about his hardships and they also see how he is living as an overcomer. The example he is living before them has already inspired them in their own difficulties and it will be a lesson that will stick with them for life.
Do your kids see you living as an overcomer?
P.S. Here’s the video to Mandesa’s song. This the first time I’ve ever watched it and it’s amazing–stories of real folks who’ve overcome. Take a minute to watch!
– Thoughts taken from My Utmost for His Highest, by Oswald Chambers for August 2.
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