How to parent in the dark? It starts with lots of prayer!
Your word is a lamp to guide my feet and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
How to parent? Do any of us really know what we are doing?
My oldest was four weeks old when she suddenly stopped sleeping more than 30 minutes at a time during the day. I think I cried more than she did when I realized that my days were suddenly going to become tyrannized by an unpredictable infant. I desperately wished she’d come out of the womb with an owner’s manual, specifically written just for her personality.
Sometimes parenting is like walking down a long dark hallway. You feel your way one step at a time and hope you don’t trip up too bad.
But here’s the deal: every one of us feels this way. If someone says to you, “Oh, I got this parenting thing down” they are either fooling themselves or outright lying.
NO parent, I don’t care how much of an “expert” they claim to be, can give you an iron-clad guarantee that their answer will solve all of your problems. Each child is unique, each family dynamic is different, and the rest is just trial and error, and a lot of prayer.
Read your parenting manuals, listen to parenting coaches and experts. Seek wise counsel from more experienced parents. But remember that there is never a one-size-fits all play by play for how to parent your child.
Every one of us is in the same boat. We may think we have this parenting thing somewhat down, and then something happens that we were not expecting, that did not happen with the other kids and we are once again walking down that dark hallway, one step at a time.
As we walk down that “dark hallway”, God gives us just enough light for one step at a time. He does not promise a pathway that is lighted so we can see the end, He promises just enough light for each step. That kind of living may be frustrating for you because you want to see the result, but that kind of living makes us very dependent on God, which is exactly where He wants us.
Every day–and on some days every hour–pray for wisdom and guidance to parent your kids. This is a job that should drive you to your knees. That dark hallway is daunting. But as you seek Him in prayer for your kids, He will show you, one day at a time, how to be the Mom or Dad you need to be for them.
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