A good dad isn’t perfect, he’s just there, with love.
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord. Ephesians 6:4.
Ever since my daughter first heard the song “Butterfly Kisses,” she knew that she wanted to have it played at her wedding for the father/daughter dance. She was 10 years old when the song was released and she didn’t get married until she was 28, so there was still 18 years left for Dad to prepare for that moment.
My daughter got married last summer and when it got to the dad/daughter dance, Butterfly Kisses came on and the moment she put her head on his chest, he and I both lost it.
For 28 years, my husband worked hard to be a good dad to her, always there when she needed him, always available to listen and help, and always willing to be the authority she needed.
What kind of father/daughter relationship results in such tenderness?
Was my husband a perfect dad? No.
Did he ever get mad at her? Yes.
But being a good parent is not about being perfect, it’s about being authentic, sacrificial and dedicated to loving your kids. It’s about being there when they need you and when they don’t know they need you. It’s about being their biggest fan. It’s about having tough love.
Our three kids have grown up knowing that behind God and our marriage, they are our #1 priority. Setting that priority means that everything we did was gaged by what was best for our family. Our kids knew that. And this 28-year-old bride, who grew up playing softball–often with her dad coaching her–loves her daddy more than she ever has.
That kind of daddy/daughter relationship doesn’t happen by accident. It takes dedication, sacrifice, and patience. But when my husband held our daughter in his arms and danced to Butterly Kisses, he knew he’d done something right.